Are you a champion of the people in your charge?
What frame of mind do you bring into every interaction?
I used to see their comments and decisions through the lens of how it affected the mission and the company. I wanted them to see it through that lens too.
But that is not their responsibility.
It is my responsibility to see it through their lens.
Too many leaders see it through the lens of how it affects them.
and then they react.
In the last 6 months, I have worked with 5 leaders in 3 organizations who were looking at leaving.
In 3 cases, it made sense for them to move on. It was a better opportunity for them. And when I really considered it, I was genuinely happy for them.
In the other 2 instances, it actually made sense for them to stay. They both stayed. Am I ever glad I have learned to be patient in these moments.
I still go through the mental loops from how it affects us, me, and then them.
But my words and my interactions now start with them.
A wise coach once told me “people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” It is when we get this confused that negative emotions dominate the narrative. It doesn’t have to be that way.
Ultimately, I want what is best for people and their lives.
March 25, 2021